Your mother has always been known by you, the rest of your family, and most of her friends as a kind, compassionate, honest individual. She was never one to curse a lot, but lately, several years after being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, she seems to be swearing more frequently.
Some of the words you hear coming out of her mouth are a complete shock to you.
You don’t know where she learned this.
She doesn’t watch many movies, doesn’t read many modern books that are chock-full of swearing and cursing, so you have no idea where she learned these things. Most people are exposed to foul language throughout their life. Just because they don’t use it doesn’t mean they weren’t exposed to it.
As Alzheimer’s disease progresses, it begins to alter the brain in ways we often can’t predict. Your mother’s memories may become distorted and the words that she’s heard in her past, even though she’s never said them herself, could be front and center.
This can be unsettling.
Whether you are helping to take care of her or visiting every once in a while, when you hear these things she is saying, it can be disconcerting, to say the least. For some it can be downright anxiety inducing.
It can completely change your perspective about your mother. That’s unfair to her. She deserves for you to have the memory of her when she was in full control of her mental faculties.
So what can you do about this?
There’s not much you can actually do to prevent her from using these words, saying certain things, or even thinking about certain events, whether they happened yesterday or several decades ago.
In order to help you and some other people in the family, it’s a good idea to rely on professional home care support services. An experienced home care aide, somebody with other seniors diagnosed with any form of dementia, have gone through this time and time again.
They will be able to handle the situation without the emotional connection. Keep in mind that these issues, especially if you are visiting with your mother every day to help her out, could affect your relationship with her. You don’t want that to happen.
By relying on home care support services, you can focus on your relationship with your mother and not the things she is saying at the moment, which she probably is not aware of.
If you or an aging loved one are considering hiring Alzheimer’s care in Clark, NJ, call the caring staff at Helping Hands Home Care today at 908-418-4299. Providing Home Care Services in all of Northern and Central NJ, including Clark, Westfield, Cranford, Scotch Plains, Rahway, Linden, Summit, Edison, Elizabeth, Mountainside and the surrounding areas.
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