Your mother is in her 80s. She’s been widowed and living alone for a few years and you worry about her. Maybe you live close to her and have been stopping by every couple of days to check in on her. You may even have gotten into the habit of calling her every day just to make sure she’s safe.
She wants to stay at home and you want to respect her wishes.
It’s not always easy to witness an elderly parent getting older and having difficulty with their mobility. It’s also not easy to begin worrying about their safety. She wants to remain at home, as more seniors today prefer. You want to honor her wishes, but you also want to make sure she is safe.
There are some things you can do that can make a world of difference. It is certainly possible for your mother to be safe and remain at home without you becoming her primary caregiver.
First, talk about changes.
We’re talking about the changes you’ve noticed with her. Her strength is probably diminishing each and every year. She may have certain health issues that have limited her mobility.
She may be fully aware of these changes, but sometimes we have a tendency to look at ourselves in the mirror and not recognize the reflection. We still see ourselves as 10 years younger. If your mother still thinks of herself as she did when she was in her late 60s or 70s, she could dramatically overestimate her physical capabilities.
Help her realize her limitations.
In a kind, loving way, tell her the things you’ve observed. Let her know that she can’t do the same things she could 10 years ago. When she begins to accept her own limitations she will be more open to certain changes, such as hiring a home care aide, installing grab bars, and more.
About those grab bars …
It’s a good idea to install grab bars. They should be installed in the tub or shower surround. You might also want to consider a shower seat. Together these can help your mother maintain confidence while stepping in and out of the tub and also allow her the opportunity to sit down if she needs to when her legs are feeling weak.
By adding lighting, lamps, or increasing the wattage of bulbs, it reduces shadows and the risk of tripping and falling. By making some of these changes and talking to her about certain issues you can help your mother stay safer, longer, at home.
If you or an aging loved one are considering care to improve senior home safety in New Brunswick, NJ, please contact the caring staff at Care Street Home Care of New Brunswick today. Call (732) 607-8870.
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