Jacob had been worried about his elderly father for several months. He didn’t stop over all that often, mostly because life was getting in the way. Jacob was fully devoted to his career and family, and he didn’t have much free time. He didn’t have the kind of time to drive an hour and a half out of his way to visit with his father.
He did visit, but maybe once every couple of months or, if his father needed help with something specific, more frequently. Beyond that, the visits were few and far between. However, Jacob began noticing his father having difficulty getting up and down on the ladder, walking up and down stairs, and even getting up from a chair. He knew it was the natural process of aging, but Jacob became concerned about his father’s safety.
He sat down to talk to him about it.
One afternoon when Jacob visited by himself, leaving his wife and children back home, he sat down to talk to his father about these concerns. He knew if his wife and children accompanied him, his father would not want to hear what he needed to say. Jacob talked about his observations. He talked about the concerns he had about his father’s safety. He explained specific situations and events that caused him to be even more concerned.
For example, during a previous visit, Jacob noticed his father about to get up on the ladder to clean the gutters out. He put his foot of the first rung, began to lift himself up, then doubled back off. He was fortunate enough to only fall onto his back seat on the driveway, but it was clear he had lost his balance because of diminished strength in his legs.
His father dismissed his concerns.
His father outright dismissed those concerns as being “rubbish.” His father said he was fine, there’s nothing to worry about, and there was no way he was ever going to be talked into moving. This caused Jacob a lot of anxiety and frustration. He didn’t want his father to move if he didn’t want to, but he needed his father to acknowledge his safety and new limitations.
Explaining one’s concerns and being specific about what they’ve seen is arguably one of the best ways to slowly begin to help seniors and others realize they are not as strong as they had been just a few years earlier. Being supportive, encouraging, and positive is a great way to help them start thinking about other options, including home care support.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to improve senior home safety in Monroe Township, NJ, please contact the caring staff at Care Street Home Care of New Brunswick today. Call (732) 607-8870.