Your elderly mother wants to remain where she is. Maybe she hasn’t used the term, ‘age in place,’ but that’s essentially what she wants to do. She doesn’t want to consider other elderly care options, but even though you are absolutely convinced she can’t do this on her own, she is stubborn and resistant.
This can cause a great deal of anxiety and frustration.
It can take a toll in your relationship with her. You may step up to be her caregiver, and while that may seem like a reasonable solution at first, it will ultimately result in added stress and anxiety, not just for you and your health, but also your relationship with her.
You don’t have to be her primary caregiver.
A lot of people begin supporting an elderly or disabled loved one out of a sense of responsibility. They think it’s their job. This is especially true if they live in the same town or close enough that it makes sense to begin looking after them.
What other option is there?
People need to realize that there are other options that may even be better for the senior in this type of situation. One of the best options to consider is hiring home care support services.
A home care aide is an individual who would assist your mother with basic tasks throughout the day. She may not need a great deal of help going to the bathroom, but what if she has difficulty getting out of bed or getting dressed in the morning? What if she has trouble preparing healthy meals for herself because she gets tired too easily?
If you don’t have the time to support her, there may be limited things you can do to help. A home care aide, hired through an agency, could stop by and support your mother in the morning, getting her ready for the day, and then another caregiver might be able to stop by in the afternoon to assist with dinner, basic housekeeping whereas the aide would assist your mother cleaning up things, and possibly even taking her to an appointment or to go shopping at the local supermarket.
If your mother wants to remain at home, she has that right and more seniors are choosing to age in place and are doing it with the support of experienced and professional home care providers.
If you or an elderly loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in Clinton, NJ, or the surrounding areas, call the caring professionals at Comfort Keepers of Flemington, NJ. Call today (908) 806-2220.
Comfort Keepers of Flemington, New Jersey, has a team of eight support staff who will be your primary contacts and your advocates.
Nancy Hmieleski, R.N., C., B.S, is the Director of Nursing and supervises the Certified Home Health Aides (CHHA) that work out of the Comfort Keepers Flemington office. Pat Corlett, RN, is the Case Manager.
General Manager Rebecca Tenore, Client Care Coordinators; Suzanne M. White, Kelly Balodis, Christine Lehr, along with Office Assistant, Nancy Russell, are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days per year to answer your questions. You will hear a friendly voice no matter when you call.
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