When two or more siblings get together to try and talk about care for an aging parent, such as their mother, differences of opinion, strategies, and backgrounds can all clash. It’s not always easy moving forward. In fact, discussions about home care and other options for aging parents can cause a tremendous amount of strife in relationships among family.
Below are three issues that some siblings may have to deal with when talking about the topic of home care options for their elderly mother with one another.
Issue #1: Roles and rivalries.
It doesn’t matter whether everyone lives close to their elderly parents, they are spread across the country, or just one of the siblings lives in the same town as their mother or father. Roles and rivalries will become an issue.
Some people look to their older siblings as the ones to lean on or look to for advice, counsel, or to make important decisions. Younger siblings may feel as though they have a better grasp on what’s going on with their mother and therefore their opinions should be taken into account.
These basic rivalries can cause tension in these relationships and make it difficult to move forward in a comprehensive and effective way.
Issue #2: Sharing responsibilities.
Who is going to be responsible for what? Some people may not feel this is their responsibility and, therefore, won’t step up to help. When a brother or sister is taking care of this elderly parent and they ask for help or for others to take up their share of responsibility and it doesn’t happen, it’s going to cause friction.
It also makes it much more difficult to talk about topics like home care support services, which could be so beneficial to that aging parent.
Issue #3: Burdens of cost.
If the mother can’t afford home care on her own, will her adult children help? If one sibling is going to help but another isn’t, that can cause resentment. Some topics may need to be addressed, including that one sibling earned significantly more in salary than others and therefore might be more willing to take on a greater share of the financial responsibility, but when it comes to money, it’s one of the most powerfully destructive forces among family and friends.
It’s important to tread lightly with some of these things, at least at first. When an elderly parent needs help, home care is not just the most affordable option, but also the best one to consider.
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