Your father called you this morning. He was upset. From what you could hear, it seemed as though he was fighting tears. All of your life your father has been an incredibly strong individual, both physically and emotionally, so this was unsettling, to say the least. It took a while, but he finally told you that your mother woke up screaming, hitting him, and yelling some horrible obscenities.
Your mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few years ago.
Your father has been her primary caregiver, and you have been helping. It’s been a difficult situation for both of you, but you couldn’t imagine moving her to a nursing home or some other facility. She wanted to remain at home, and she was frightened about the future.
Now, though, things need to change.
Your mother woke up confused. She had no idea where she was. In her mind she might have been a teenager again. In her mind, she may have been back in her early 20s, before she met your father, before they fell in love, and before they got married.
It may have been a minor issue, something short-lived, but even though she doesn’t remember the situation any longer, it has affected your father and will continue to impact him for quite some time.
Now is the time to consider help.
You may need to talk to your father about having him move to a different bed or even start spending time in a different bedroom. This is certainly a difficult situation for couples to face, especially having been married for so many years, and while this type of situation may not happen again for weeks or even months, it could happen tomorrow morning. It could happen at her next nap.
This kind of stress and anxiety is going to not just overwhelm her, but your father and others as well. Home care aides can be a great asset in these types of situations because they have wonderful experience working with other elderly clients diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia. They often have a number of strategies that can be highly effective to provide comfort for these men and women when they suddenly forget where they are, don’t recognize the surroundings, or have no clue who is in the house with them.
It may seem like a minor thing, something that will pass, but it’s only going to get tougher from here on out. That’s why now is the time to talk about home care support services.
If you or an elderly loved one are considering Alzheimer’s care in Raritan Township, NJ, or the surrounding areas, call the caring professionals at Comfort Keepers of Flemington, NJ. Call today (908) 806-2220.
Comfort Keepers of Flemington, New Jersey, has a team of eight support staff who will be your primary contacts and your advocates.
Nancy Hmieleski, R.N., C., B.S, is the Director of Nursing and supervises the Certified Home Health Aides (CHHA) that work out of the Comfort Keepers Flemington office. Pat Corlett, RN, is the Case Manager.
General Manager Rebecca Tenore, Client Care Coordinators; Suzanne M. White, Kelly Balodis, Christine Lehr, along with Office Assistant, Nancy Russell, are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days per year to answer your questions. You will hear a friendly voice no matter when you call.
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