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Caregiving in a Dysfunctional Family: What if the Shoe Was on the Other Foot?

Many people would readily admit their family is dysfunctional to some extent. There may be broken relationships, people who do odd things, as well as pride, arrogance, and boastfulness that seem to keep some people apart. When an elderly or disabled family member needs care, especially in one of these dysfunctional families, it can create extra challenges.

Caregiver Stress in Summit NJ: Caregiving in a Dysfunctional Family

Caregiver Stress in Summit NJ: Caregiving in a Dysfunctional Family

What does this mean?

For example, say there’s an elderly person living alone who recently suffered a medical emergency. It could have been a heart attack or stroke. Maybe it was major surgery. Whatever the case may be, that person is going to require some extra physical assistance for a while.

In a dysfunctional family, it might be difficult to figure out who is going to step up and care for this individual. One adult child may live just down the street but doesn’t offer to help. Another person in the family may live in the next town over but is apoplectic about the other adult child not even offering to lift a finger. So, instead of assisting the senior, that person will also refuse to help, sort of like a standoff.

Meanwhile, the elderly person is not getting the help he or she needs.

People need to think about things from a different perspective. What if the shoe was on the other foot, so to speak. What if it was that adult child who lives just down the street who had been injured in an accident? What if he or she needed help to get to the doctor, through physical therapy, and to recover? What if no one in that family was really stepping up to offer help?

How would he or she feel?

It would probably be depressing, to say the least. Frustrating is usually a word to describe it best, though. It will also make things much more difficult for that person to recover and get back to some semblance of normalcy in life.

What can be done to make a difference?

When people understand the importance and value of home care aides and other support services, it doesn’t matter how dysfunctional a family is. It doesn’t matter whether the nearest family or friend lives more than an hour away. That elderly person can simply call and make arrangements through an agency to hire home care support services.

Then, that person who needs help won’t have to worry about upsetting the traditional balance within the family. It’s okay to say no; that is, so long as the person who needs assistance can get the necessary help.

If you or an aging loved one are considering hiring home care to reduce caregiver stress in Summit, NJ, call the caring staff at Helping Hands Home Care today at 908-418-4299. Providing Home Care Services in all of Northern and Central NJ, including Clark, Westfield, Cranford, Scotch Plains, Rahway, Linden, Summit, Edison, Elizabeth, Mountainside and the surrounding areas.

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Robert D'Arienzo

After graduating from Seton Hall University with a BS in finance Helping Hands Homecare’s Owner / President, Robert D’Arienzo, went to work on Wall St. for six years. However, after Robert’s grandmother became ill with stomach cancer Robert and his family needed to find assistance in the home for her. After many trials and tribulations Robert could see that there was a great need for quality home care services here in NJ and loved the idea of being able to assist other families who were going through what his family went through with his beloved grandmother.

Thus, Robert had found his passion. After almost a year of preparation Robert opened Helping Hands Homecare in 2003. Robert wanted Helping Hands Homecare to focus on providing the highest quality of caregivers, exceptional customer service, and providing a service that familys could depend on in their time of need. Since then Helping Hands has assisted hundreds of individuals with the simplest of needs to more complex cases while preserving those standards set out many years ago.

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