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Controlling Others Doesn’t Reduce Caregiver Stress

You’re feeling stressed out. You can’t take it anymore. You just want the anxiety to end. However, your family member needs you. Maybe it’s your mom. Perhaps it’s your husband or wife. Maybe it’s a disabled adult child. Whoever it is and no matter how close your relationship is with them, it’s still going to be stressful.

Caregiver Stress in Roseland NJ: Controlling Others Doesn't Reduce Stress

Caregiver Stress in Roseland NJ: Controlling Others Doesn’t Reduce Stress

That’s what happens when you become a family caregiver.

This might not have been by choice, but rather because you didn’t think there were any other options open to you. Now, though, with all that stress invading your life you don’t know how to handle it.

So, you start taking it out on others.

You don’t mean to. It just happens, and usually slowly, at that. You feel as though your life has spun out of control. You don’t know how to get it back. You wish you could just step back and not even start with all this, but you love this person and there really isn’t anything you wouldn’t do for him or her.

Then you begin telling your spouse what he or she can or can’t do. You begin dictating to friends what they should be doing with their life. Even at the grocery store you find yourself telling the cashier or manager how to do their job.

This isn’t part of your normal personality.

Frankly, you don’t like the person you’re becoming. You can’t figure it out, but late at night, when everyone is asleep and you can’t chase after it yourself, you start thinking about how you’re treating others and realize something has to change.

When we begin losing control of our life, when it feels as though everything is spinning beyond us, beyond our own control, we may have a tendency to attempt controlling others. This isn’t necessarily a deliberate act, but one in which we tried to maintain some semblance of normalcy in our own lives. When we can’t control things that are happening around us, we try to control whatever we can, and sometimes that means we attempt to control our friends and family.

This is a sign you need help.

If this is happening to you, if you recognize these various signs, it’s a good idea to sit down and figure out what can be done. One of the best options is to rely on home care support services. Maybe this was something you didn’t want to consider before because you assumed this was your responsibility, but now it’s clear the stress of being a family caregiver has become overwhelming.

Believe it or not, hiring a home care aide will help you feel in control of your life once again and that can help many relationships that have begun to suffer as a result.

For home care to reduce caregiver stress in Roseland, NJ, call ComForCare Home Care at 973-287-4718. Serving Caldwell, Clifton, Montclair, Bloomfield, Nutley, Verona, Little Falls, Cedar Grove, Totowa, Essex Fells, Roseland, Glen Ridge, West Paterson, Fairfield, Passaic, Belleville.

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Zack Demopoulos

Zack and Phyllis Demopoulos are the Owners of ComForcare Senior Services of Fairfield, NJ.
Whether it’s in business or in life, finding the right partner is vital to the success of any union.Fortunately, Zack and Phyllis Demopoulos have found the perfect counterparts in each other.After 21 years of marriage, the couple decided to join forces in a new way with ComForcare.Zack had over two decades in healthcare at Warner-Lambert and Pfizer, and Phyllis was a stay-at-home mom of three and former Estée Lauder trainer.Their strong family values and personal experience with helping relatives who required continuous assistance led them to a business
centered on providing top-notch care to those needing it most. ComForcare is committed to providing caregiving, resources and education to families in Northern Essex and Southern Passaic counties.

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